Did you know that the feeling of anxiety is a traumatised part of you trying to protect you?

Let me give you an example: Throughout your childhood, your mother has repeatedly told you that you needed to be quiet for the sake of peace within the family unit. She was scared of the volatile reactions of your father and asked you to behave a certain way to pacify him. You, yourself , have experienced the violence of his outbursts and you have learnt to censor yourself and stay low.

You are now grown-up but you find social engagement fill you with anxiety. You generally feel fatigued and prefer to stay on your own. 

What is happening is that your nervous system is not at rest. Similar to apps running in the background, this state of being drains your energy and  causes fatigue. Furthermore, social situations activate the parts of you that feel unsafe with others and that remember that you cannot be at ease (be yourself) for fear of causing others to have unwanted reactions. The constant watching of what you say or do happening subconsciously, comes up as an un-natural effort to your system and the fear trying to warn you is that feeling of anxiety. This part of you is trying to keep you safe but this uneasy state of being feels off and drains you.

What can be done?

To heal trauma, we need to identify the parts of our being that need to be seen and heard and acknowledge them with compassion. In other words, we need to reprogram ourselves to switch off the fearfulness, so we can effortlessly glide through our lives. 

The very first step is to know that whatever we are feeling, is valid, and is a welcome part of us that is there because it was once what got us through a tough situation. 

There are many ways to heal trauma. It is a process, it can take years to resolve certain deep issues, but it is always a benefit to our health and well-being.

These patterns of trauma resulting in certain types of behaviour are inherited and passed down. By healing yourself, you also put a stop to the repetition of a trigger and its reaction.

You liberate your ancestors, yourself and your descendants.